Recently I was asked, “Do you find it difficult for successful men and women to be in a meaningful relationships?”
Do Not Let Your Friends or Family Influence You Based on What They Would Do.
I believe as long as timing and values are in place for both people, it is possible for successful men and women to have meaningful relationships. Being successful is a bonus! There are two guidelines to follow for a meaningful relationship:
1. You both must be whole when you enter the relationship! Having done the personal work on yourself will serve you well in your career and your relationship. It’s the only way to find peace within yourself and bring value into a loving relationship. Identifying personal strengths and weaknesses within your relationships, allows you to analyze and resolve past experiences so that you can secure a better future. Otherwise, excuses (over analyzing and trying to control the relationship) to protect yourself from past relationships and unresolved experiences enter the new relationship. Bringing in your unresolved feelings and experiences from a past relationship brings one too many people (your ex(s)) into the mix.
2. Prioritize your relationship. If you want to see growth in your relationship, make it a priority. You can’t get that summer body by thinking about it. You have to put in the work! That body doesn’t shape up itself! The same applies for a relationship. It takes a moderate amount of time, focus and dedication, a few days a week, to keep that relationship (and body) healthy.
When it Comes to Love and Relationships it is All About Timing and Values! #DontSettle
It really is that simple. We can try to justify why something isn’t working but the truth is, if the shoe doesn’t fit, we can’t really wear it. The shoe, just like a relationship with another person, either fits or it doesn’t. When you try to work with a shoe that doesn’t fit, you will either be in pain or be uncomfortable. In other words, don’t settle with someone who isn’t fitting for your life. Even though the uncomfortable pair may look fabulous, and even seem like a “must have”, it’s not a fit. You may think that you can force a good looking shoe to fit, but in reality, it will only prevent you from finding the shoe that feels comfortable, and looks amazing. The Fairy Godmother in Cinderella knew what she was doing.
Timing is everything! That fit may not happen on your timing but rest assured it will happen!
Cue Ed Sheeran or John Legend! Trust me when I say don’t settle!
You have to know your value! I would suggest to name your top 3-5 values and non-negotiables. When you connect with someone who has similar values, it helps the relationship on all cylinders. How you were raised, your spiritual and religious beliefs, and even financial habits, can all play a part in how you value life and love. What works well for one person might not work for another and that’s oooookay!
When it’s your time, you will really appreciate your significant other, what they bring to the relationship and together you will create the love you both desire. In the meantime, enjoy the process of finding that fit.
Ms. Naomi K